"Her mother had been wrong. Love wasn’t a grand explosion. It didn’t blaze onto the scene like a comet; it crept in like a spy in the night, muffled and disguised, worming its way in, not revealing itself until it was too late to do anything about it. Love didn’t attack; it infiltrated. The poets had gotten it wrong."
— from The Orchid Affair by Lauren Willig (via moreofamore)
I am Corey Alexander. I am a queer polyamorous transgender stone butch. I am invested in a concept of sex positivity that honors desire, multiplicity and complexity, embodied wholeness, critical analysis, and self determination.
I am often changing, and often a catalyst for change. I value being caring, careful, intentional and present in my connections and life choices. I recognize that nonconsensual violence is common in all communities, am committed to fighting oppression and recognizing privilege, and am invested in endeavoring to only enact power in a deeply consensual and conscious manner.
I teach classes on kink, sex, relationships and anti-oppression activism. I write queer kink erotica under the name Xan West.
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